NFP Awareness Week 2016- Media Meditation Monday


Hat tip/credit to the USCCB.

Let’s get this week really underway! (If you’d like a primer on NFP, explore the links provided by the USCCB.)

A couple of years ago I decided to recognize NFP Awareness Week with some regular posts. I’ll try to tag them so you can look them up (and honestly, I need to review what I’ve already said!).

Today I wanted to bring back one of my personal favorite categories, Modern Media Meditation. Considering myself musically Ignatian, I most often and profoundly experience God in music. And believe it or not, some of the principles of NFP are preached in music. That you hear on the radio! No need to wade through the one generic Christian rock station or break out Matt Maher CDs, unless you’d like to.

“All of Me” by John Legend. For our first dance, PJ and I swayed and twirled to young singer Jasmine Thompson’s cover.

Many posts ago, I analyzed the lyrics to the song, with maybe just a hint of an idea that perhaps it could be used for my very own marriage! If someone knows of a version with male and female voices, please let me know, so it can be my new favorite thing. To further connect the words to NFP, especially the lovely theme devised by the USCCB:

  • Love: Not just the passionate, romantic kind (eros) the singer feels for the beloved, but the sacrificial (caritas/agape) kind: “Even when I lose, I’m winning.” Something I could only superficially understand before marriage and living the practice out–“NFP entails loving sacrifice”–I am now experiencing more deeply. Think of any hard part of NFP and that you were losing–the idea is to have the grace to see you’re actually winning, because what you have given up was out of love for the other. And that is “winning.”


  • Mercy: This virtue is showing compassion, to “feel with.” Despite  the beloved’s “imperfections,” or the “world beating you down,” the singer loves the person totally and completely. To me, the latter lyric could signify our sinful nature in this fallen world. And NFP in practice does still offer a channel for evil to enter in. What couples have to do (and what PJ and I are striving to live out) is be merciful to one another when he/she struggles, and like God, love anyway–and use that love to “show us still a better way.”


  • Life: Okay, this is a little bit of a stretch, because nothing in the song talks about creating a life together. HOWEVER, the singer repeatedly mentions giving his/her “all” to the other, as does the beloved reciprocate. In NFP, you are giving all of yourself, including your potential fertility. When you’re both “showing hearts” (just what shape do you think some NFP charts use to indicate intercourse?), you’re showing openness to each other, but also a child.

And just because there has to be some humor, some choice lyrics are “You’re crazy and I’m out of my mind.” Relying on (a very effective) method of spacing or achieving pregnancy that relies on discernment is a very radical act in today’s culture, and given some of the practice’s idiosynchrosies, a little intimidating. Also, “Risking it all, though it’s hard.” I will always be honest. Before marriage, I could point to forums, articles, “experts” and say, “Let’s not be naive. This is hard.” Now I can say, “Yup! I was right.” Sometimes it is a challenge, and you’re feeling like you are taking a risk. But the point is you do it anyway. Not because you’re lazy. Not because some old man in a funny hat told you you had to or else hell. But because you want to. Because you see it as an act of love.

Some other examples:

  • “Take Me the Way I Am” by Ingrid Michaelson. The sentiment of accepting a person the way she is–you know, a person with the gift of potential fertility (or with challenges)–is clear. The line about Rogaine is unfrotunate, BUT the rest of the singer’s reciprocity is about small acts of care, especially the physical. NFP is all about honoring and caring for your beloved’s body.
  • “Stand by You” by Rachel Platten. While not an obvious choice, this song captures the commitment, even in the most difficult times, a beloved feels for the other. I hear elements of sacrifice and mercy (“I’ll walk through hell with you”) and charity (“Take my [wings] so yours can open to”). NFP involves a deep commitment for spouses, and depending on your discernment, can have its “heavens” you can’t find, and its hells that maybe you find yourselves in. Not to mention that the teaching of why NFP is an approved practice is based on Truth, and living it out requires faith.

What songs have you heard lately that might apply? Which lyrics will see you through your journey?

Oh, and I want to shout out to the blogger and author who really “sold” me on NFP. Simcha Fisher is running a contest for SIX ClearBlue fertility monitors all week. You can use this trusty device as part of a sympto-hormonal method of NFP to achieve or postpone pregnancy.

My Sunday Best


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This picture had to be taken this way, as my legs are currently propped up in what has been a weekend cycle of “stretch them!” “put them up!” “walk some more!” “elevate with a heating pad!” (Plus my sainted husband is scouring the bathroom and fully deserves to collapse in a chair instead of taking my picture.) Apparently the charley horse in the wee sma’s of Friday  was not properly flexed out, and my right calf has been SORE all weekend.

Though I normally don’t like to layer in the summer–especially now that I have to sport compression stockings–church was quite chilly with its A/C. The pink tank is Old Navy, I’m pretty sure; the white top might be H&M, can’t really remember; and the skirt is a consignment store find that I was able to get one last wear out of. The waist could sit above the bump!

Best Line: “What father among you would hand his son a snake when he asks for a fish?”

I like this line from Luke because to me, it’s a reminder that God doesn’t give us bad things after we’ve asked him for good ones. But it is also challenging in the sense that still, bad things do happen. As I understand it, it’s not so much God willfully ignoring prayers for say, health, and gleefully pressing a tragedy button instead. But more like because we live in a fallen world, bad things happen, and though it may be hard to understand, God uses those times to give us even greater goods.

Oh, and I wanted to make some special connection to this and NFP Awareness Week, as I usually like to acknowledge the time with some writing, but I’m at a loss. Here’s the mention: It’s NFP Awareness Week! Erm…it’s a fish, not a snake. 😛

REMINDER: Caitlin E. (a blogger) and Deanna T., or you know followers of this link-up with those names, please email You’ve won a prize!

7QTF: Pregnant. And a Pause.


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So there was a little pause there with my blogging, and no it wasn’t “pregnant” (meaning it wasn’t serving some greater purpose); just lazy. : P To give you an idea of how much I have to muster up the wherewithal to commit to this project that has given me joy, an outlet, etc., I started this post on Sunday.


Happily still pregnant, even if as Sunday’s picture shows, not really looking at it. In the interim, PJ and I found out who we should be expecting around Thanksgiving!

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Meet Sweetie, Jr., y’all. His name will be the surprise.


Saw this recently and laughed and laughed.


Yup, that’s pretty much what it’s like.


I may have mentioned on an NAS post (“What I’d Miss ABout Being Single”) about loving my bed. It’s like a cloud. And when PJ and I started talking about how we like to sleep and appropriately testing out his existing mattress, I told him, “We’ll need a new mattress. I like ’em soft enough to think I’m on a cloud.”

People, my cloud came last week.


That’s the LeachCo Back n Belly surround-fluff system. Worth every penny (and got us to qualify for the Amazon Welcome Box for Moms, as well as a SkipHop toy for Prime Day).


Sunday featured many young ones raising their voices to the heavens–some in delight, most in supplication. Our son was all


and that little fist (or more likely foot) of his echoed in reply.


 Speaking of kicks, every time I feel him move (or is it his hiccups?), this is how I react:




 Yeah, totally had an XL Kit Kat for second breakfast. What? I needed something to go with my half-caff coffee, which I needed because I had an earlier shift at work…




Little dude is due Thanksgiving, and already I’m thinking about how we’ll need to get back into the practice of NFP. More to come next week, as I’ll try to do my usual recognition of NFP Awareness Week with some posts. But, yeah, getting excited that there’s potentially even MORE clarity post-partum than what Marquette/Boston Cross Check offers.

AND OH, would the Caitlin E. and Deanna T. who entered the latest Ten Commandments for Kissing Gloria Jean PLEASE email Thanks!

That’s all I’ve got. Happy weekend, everyone!

NAS: Wedding Fun


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We are now fully immersed in wedding season! What are your favorite parts of a wedding? Where do you find the best dresses for the occasion? Have any unique gift ideas? Share anything and all tips and tricks with us!

Well…I meant to do a whole series of posts each Tuesday this month on weddings and marriage, as my first wedding anniversary was July 11! 😀 Buuuuut my unintentional blogging hiatus meant it’s half gone. So here are some thoughts from a recentish bride who LOVED going to weddings and how she felt once she actually became one herself! Bonus: Some pretty pictures at the end!

Favorite Parts

Most weddings I’ve attended as an adult were Catholic Masses, or in one case, a church celebration of the Rite of Marriage (no Eucharist). By far my favorite part was seeing what musical pieces, hymns, and readings the couple selected. After attending a few, I came to piece together my own wedding liturgy…years before I’d even met my groom, PJ!

When PJ and I finally did pick out the elements, I did get some of my long-dreamt-of selections, but it was also surprising to see how certain things changed. Since it would make the post too long, I’ll do a future one on what we decided on.

And of course, seeing the bride and groom so happy and in love. Just overall the feeling of JOY everyone has.

Also, a favorite part, to be honest: open bar! Now, I did not get toasted after the customary champagne toast, but it’s always real nice to enjoy something delicious and bubbly without worrying about carrying cash. At one wedding, when I was 20, I had to pay for a soda, while the keg was free. Naturally when it was my turn to plan the reception, treating guests was a must. Plus, there are many classy ways to do so without worrying about people taking things to extremes.

THE Dress

I always like dressing up, and consider weddings, no matter how casual, to be special occasions, and as such, deserving of something a tick above my Sunday best, at least. Most of my favorites came from a consignment shop in the Boston area (also in CT), Second Time Around. Others were from random department stores. One came from Express. For church, I usually used a nice wrap, cardigan, or shrug. A tip for finding Mass-appropriate or modest dresses is to avoid the Juniors section or trendy stores and try the Special Occasions racks at department stores or shops like Ann Taylor. Though they may have had a past reputation for frumpy or “stuff-only-your-aged-aunt-would-wear,” the trend now is for classy frocks. Plus most women of most ages want to look youthful, but not ridiculous.

When I finally got to go wedding dress shopping (a whirlwind 18 hours over a Friday afternoon/evening and Saturday morning involving 20-some-odd dresses), I knew I wanted sleeves and an appropriate back, given my hair will not hold a veil. Thanks to Duchess of Cambridge, Kate, and Downton Abbey, sleeves are more of a thing now, so I got my wish all in one dress, ON SALE, at David’s Bridal. And for the showers, bachelorette party, and rehearsal dinner, I got them all at ModCloth.

Gift Ideas

When attending weddings, I usually just went in on group gift from the registry, or added a personal touch, especially if the bride and I were dear dear friends. For  a non-religious couple in our family, my husband and I got them this wine storage box with some selections we knew they’d appreciate. They had bought a house together a year previously, so they pretty much had it all.


Some of PJ and I’s favorite gifts:

  • A “bouquet” of Masses in our honor
  • This prayer offering from a fellow Knight of Columbus, who just so happens to be be the brother of the Vocations Director at the Oblates, who was once a spiritual director of mine during a Spiritual Exercises Lenten retreat. SMALL, BEAUTIFUL WORLD!



But truly the best gift of all was seeing the smiling faces of family and friends who made it all the way to some random town in CT to see us wed and celebrate the start of our lives together. Auntie Seraphic wrote about weddings and acknowledged how sometimes the experience of attending weddings as a single person is not always a blissful one, but do know your presence and happiness for the couple is truly a blessing.

And now some pics from the amazingly talented Jon Cerritelli and Prestige Barkley Photographic Design!


My Sunday Best and Prize Winners!

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Well, hello! Long time no blog. Ugh, I feel terrible about it–no real good excuse. Anywho, let’s get to today.


Praise be the churches that have central A/C. The neckline, while not immodest for a lunch out with the girls, is not really appropriate for Mass. So, a sweater! I love how light and breezy everything about this outfit is. Though my tiny bump is barely discernible (see me at 10 pm after a large meal in a clingy fabric–definitely a baby in there), I’m into about 92% maternity clothes. Just. So. Comfy.

I recall one of these type of link-ups, or one poster, at least, trying to focus on something spiritual, too. I have just enough and energy and promise of commitment to pick the best line of Mass.

Best Line:  “Come, eat This Bread from heaven/Thy peace and strength regain.” –From the hymn O Sacrament  Most Holy, sung at Eucharist.

ALSO! Last month I ran a contest for my novel, and I think there are some winners who entered via a link on a similar such post and never claimed their prize. Would CAITLIN E. and DEANNA T. please please email me at Or check your spam/social folders? My publisher would like to send you the signed copy! If you prefer, I can get you the publicist’s official contact info, and she’ll get it to you.

My Sunday Best

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We’re having our first heat wave in new England this weekend—indices getting to 90+ every day. Thankfully, the parish my husband and I attend has central a/c (I told him that was a requirement. Props/hat-tip/courtsey to all the ladies who make it to church with no cooling dressed appropriately.

Dress: A spaghetti strap number from Columbia. At one point when I got it a few years ago it had SPF and even some water resistance. It’s so comfy, and nearly perfect for 3 months pregnant me, what with the roomy skirt. But the built-in panel around the bust just kills me now. Add in the stuffing myself at the monthly young couples’ potluck afterward, and I knew it was time to retire it. It went straight into the “nope bin” after Mass along with the rest of my wardrobe.

Shrug: Old Navy knit. I LOVE shrugs. So perfect for  tossing over “inappropriate” work/church clothes.

That black thing: What I call “modesty tabs”…you just hook them onto bra straps and volia! coverage! So much better than layering a full tank/camisole on the warm days. And I got them (a pack of three–black, white, and tan) with one of my many CVS coupons!

Sandals: IDK…Payless? Or Old Navy? I don’t pay much attention to where I get them.

I hope you’ll permit me to do this, but I wrote a book about a young teen girl who loves fashion–and her faith–and I’m giving it away! 5 signed copies of Ten Commandments for Kissing Gloria Jean. Enter the link below. Thanks!

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7QTF: Reviews, Annoucement, Giveaway!


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An excellent analysis on parenting and the working world. I found myself hitting the steering wheel saying out loud “You’re dang right!” about a lot of Slaughter’s insights into how the working world treats parents, especially mothers, as well as prescriptions for possible policies that could make raising and supporting a family–including caring for adults like a sick sibling or aging parent–easier. A few lines here and there are not in accord with Catholic teaching, but overall a pro-family sentiment without turning it into a “mommy war” issue.



I can’t speak to his television show, but this book, read by the author–natch–is hilarious. Great observations about raising a gaggle of children. I found myself thinking that his and my parenting sensibilities are very simpatico. Important note: if you’ve seen almost all of his comedy bits, you’ve probably heard some of the jokes before.



I’ve got GERD (gastroesophageal reflux disease). Most of the recommendations you can find from reputable articles online. But to be honest, I only found myself taking down a couple of dessert recipes. You have to like or enjoy the foods recommended. And since GERD can be specific to you–for example, fresh apples are touted as great for GERD; they made me throw up shortly after–a grocery trip can get expensive if you have to do process of elimination.  What I really wanted was “Here’s how you can have your favorites (tomatoes, coffee, alcohol, seasonings, etc.) without wanting to die or becoming reliant on medication–that you can’t be on long-term. Since that’s a pipe dream (short of possible relief from surgery), the best tip this book had was to just limit the food aggravators, like putting chicken stock in a marinara.

Pro-tip: Always, always check out cookbooks from your local library. So long as the recipe you transcribe, copy, snap a picture of is for your personal use and not printed anywhere public or used to earn you money, totally ok.



An excellent resource for women. While not every topic will apply to you, the section on nutrition, helpful charts, and Q&As are very helpful. My favorite part: no guilt. Some nutrition resources essentially tell you to eat like you’re trying to lose weight–exercise 30 minutes everyday! sub Greek yogurt for ice cream! (as if they’re the same) don’t you know how bad cheesy bacon tater tot pie is? how dare you! This one gently points out the foods to nab and sub, but also says it’s realistic–and okay!–to indulge. I believe it’s the 80-20 rule–aim for at least 80% of your intake being good and healthy. Which is super nice to hear when you actually need to gain weight…



THIS BOOK WAS NOT WRITTEN BY A DOCTOR AND IS NOT MEANT TO SUPPLANT HIS/HER ADVICE. But it is awesome. What it is: an analysis by a qualified economist (who has studied how to read studies and stats) of all the (sometimes!) competing research into pregnancy and recommendations for women. I don’t have a subscription to all the medical journals’ archives, and nor does my library–plus I don’t have the time or know-how to look up the basis for certain things. I like asking “why,”and Oster goes into the multiple studies surrounding an issue and parses them out. And explains how correlation is not causation, how studies were conducted and how that affects results, and provides information for you to make your own decision. For example, she read the research and decided against an epidural, but her friend read the same info and made a different decision. Basically, if you want to know if coffee or a leetle bit of wine is okay and when, you can bring up the data with your doctor and get their input based on you.


And in case you couldn’t figure it out from my reading/listening selections, our little turkey’s already in the oven for Thanksgiving.



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